Dear Society, Don't Decide My Normal.
I have. I bet you have too, for some reason or the other. None of us are alone in this. We all have our insecurities, our challenges, those nooks and corners in us that we would rather not look inside. Running away is always easier. But is it always the better resort? Maybe now. Maybe not always.
Those of you who have been kind enough (no sarcasm intended at all) to read my earlier post must be of the opinion that I started writing to normalise acne and acne skin and that is very rightly so.
However, there is a scarier issue underlying it all that needs to be addressed: The sick environment in which we are born and brought up, the twisted society that shaped our thought processes and the ever disturbing way in which we are told things should be normally.
This is not just about acne. It is about every single aspect of one's life that is scrutinized to have not fit in. Where? Well, it doesn't fit into this normalised world of normal people. A perfect body type, a perfect skin type, a perfect way to smile, a perfect way to talk, a perfect lifestyle, a perfect career option and a perfect little life for the show! What for? You find the grand rationale. I can't, I am stupid.
I am worried about the very definition of normal here. We are not supposed to fit in. No matter how desperately you try to, it will never be enough. We are human beings, we are social animals. If all of us were normal, we would all be the same, the exact same normal. That would simply make us animals, not humans. Then are we just heading back in time?
Luckily, I do believe that people still have a chance at humanity. I do believe that those fortunate among us can reverse some of the long standing damage already dealt by the pitiful double standards that we face in our society every day. May we not be fooled, may we never lose hope along this beautiful journey and may we not get swayed by that nagging voice, "why me?".
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That's some strong piece of writing. Being aware of the societal double standards and keeping expectations from ourselves based on how the "actual normal" is something we should all focus on. Thanks for penning down this issue.
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Glad I could make it understandable. 😇
DeleteSo glad we're talking about this more openly. More power to you!
ReplyDeleteMuch love ❤️
DeleteI absolutely loved this piece. I'm glad that you chose to address the issue which was begging our attention since a long time and I believe self-acceptance is the first step towards changing the society.
ReplyDeleteAnd thank you so much for reading!
DeleteReally glad you chose this topic to speak on. Keep going girl! <3
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading!
DeleteHi , first of all , great initiative! I too wanted to share my part of ' why me?'.
ReplyDeleteOn Feb 2020, I was diagnosed will Bulluous Phemphigoid, which is basically an autoimmune disorder where your antibodies react against your skin cells causing blisters and lesions all over your face and body. At first I literally got depressed, when doctor informed that it in not curable and I have to take medication throughout my life. Still now I am on medication , things have improved though. But the best part is I had my friends and family who have helped me to overcome that 'why me?' and now I have totally accepted that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing! You're one strong human being. Much love ❤️
Delete"je tore pagol bole,tare tui bolis ne kichu" -Rabindranath.
ReplyDeleteBeing normal is so boring, be different. How can something be perfect,when the very essence of evolution is imperfections. Great writing by the way.
Definitely!
DeleteThanks a lot.